Charlotte Allison, M.A.
7 min readSep 11, 2019


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I am a nice girl.

There is nothing wrong with being a nice girl.

It’s a wonderful trait to have. But being too nice all the time is not always so good. And can even work against you.

What I am referring to here is being nice to a fault. Even when your niceness is not deserved.

Being nice to people who don’t deserve your niceness. Being nice in situations that don’t warrant your niceness.

Another words; too nice for your own good.

In today’s article you will discover if you’ve fallen victim to the nice girl trap, and what you can do to take back your girl power.

Being too nice for your own good is not just a trait that women had in past generations.

Even today, there are many women who fall victim to the nice girl trap.

I know this because I have been one of these women most of my life. It is only now starting to change for me.

Perhaps I will always be a nice girl. But I am learning to discern the situations and people who do and don’t deserve my niceness.

I always felt like I had to be nice to people no matter how badly they treated me. Because I wanted everyone to like me.

I would always agree with what someone said, even if I didn’t really agree.

I would agree with one person’s opinion. And then also agree with someone else’s opinion, even if it was a completely opposite opinion.

If someone liked a certain kind of music; I also liked that music. Even if I really didn’t. And this was true for everything.

I couldn’t have an opinion of my own, because I was so invested in making sure everyone liked me. I wanted to feel like everyone was on my side.

Unfortunately, many people will take advantage of the fact that you are a nice girl.

After all, nice girls are compliant and will do whatever they’re told. They will agree with whatever you say and try to please you no matter what; even if it’s not in their best interest.

Where does this need to be liked by everyone stem from? What are the causes of nice girl behavior?

Some of it stems from societal and cultural beliefs. The way girls have always…



Charlotte Allison, M.A.

Master of Arts degree in spiritual psychology. Writing is a tool for healing. When you heal your self, you help to heal the planet as well.