How Women Keep Getting Lured Back into an Abusive Relationship
Key dynamics to be aware of.
The Cycle of Abuse
The cycle of abuse starts with tension building. In this stage you can feel the anxiety, and are often walking on eggshells, afraid of saying or doing the “wrong” thing. When in truth he will be abusive regardless of what you do or don’t do.
Then the abusive incident happens. It could be physical, emotional, or verbal. Sometimes all three.
Then there is the “nice” phase. Also known as the honeymoon phase.
Keynote: The “nice” phase is not separate from the abuse. The “nice” phase is part of the cycle of abuse.
It is the “nice” phase that stands to lure you back into the relationship. This is the part where many women are tricked into believing everything is going to be okay this time. — Only to have it happen again sooner or later.
The period between the “nice” phase and the next abusive incident varies. It could be a few days or as much as several months. But there is always a next time.
Even if the “nice” phase lasts several months and you’re convinced that at last everything is going to be okay from now on…the next time always comes. There is always a next time.
